Everyone feels stressed at times, even in the most ordinary, everyday situations.
At school you may feel that your coursework is piling up, exam revision is taking forever, or you may be having problems with teachers or being bullied. At home you may be arguing with your parents, brothers or sisters, falling out with close friends or breaking up with your boy or girl friend. The situation can be made even worse if your family is breaking up or someone close to you is ill or dies.
Stress can affect you physically and mentally. You may feel constantly tired, lose your appetite, suffer from headaches or an upset stomach and find it difficult to sleep. You may find it hard to concentrate, control your temper or make decisions. Stress that goes on for a long time could turn into depression.
There are several things you can do to help you deal with the situation. Feeling alone and isolated is quite common when you're stressed, but it's often easier to cope if you have some understanding and support from other people. Finding someone you can trust to talk to is also helpful.
People you might want to talk to could include:
There are also some steps you can take to help you to cope in stressful situations:
Almost everyone feels nervous before taking exams, worrying about the questions being asked and wondering whether they have done enough revision.
A certain amount of nervous tension can help a person perform. That extra adrenaline rush helps the mind to stay focused and alert. But too much stress and anxiety can result in panic attacks and confusion leading to poor exam results.
More advice and tips can be found on our page preparing for exams.
Often coursework deadlines are close together, causing worries about getting it all completed. If you have problems you should not be afraid to speak to the tutors responsible for subjects but your form tutor/personal tutor or a school or college learning mentor may also be able to help.
If you are having relationship problems you could start by talking to your Personal Adviser at the Drop In Centre, Thurrock Learning Shop on 01375 413735. Or you might contact Relate for relationship counselling. You can find details of your local branch on www.relate.org.ukor call 0300 100 1234
Bullying is any behaviour which makes someone feel hurt, intimidated, frightened, harmed or excluded. It usually happens time and time again.
Bullying can take different forms, such as:
If you are being bullied, or know someone who is, you will find useful information on the Childline web site www.childline.org.uk and helpline 0800 1111.
You may also find the following web sites provide useful information on stress and how to cope with it: